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A Grieving Friend

Today was a very sad day.  In fact, this whole week has had a sad undercurrent to it.  One of my closest friends loss her mom earlier this week unexpectedly.  Needless to say she isn't taken this tragic event well.  I was in shock when I first heard her mom had died.

Although, I had only met her mom a few times, the times that I met her she left a lasting impression on me.  She was beautiful and had such a glow and lovely personality.  The times I can remember being around her, I always see her smiling.   And she was so talented when it came to making cakes.  In fact, I was going to ask her to make a Princess Tiana cake for Moo's birthday.

I know she was a great mom because my friend talked so much about her parents and how loving they were.  Plus, I saw first hand how much they adored their children and grandchildren.  During my friend's son's first birthday, I would see her parents glancing her interacting with her son.  The look in their eyes was pure pride and love as if they were saying "We did well."  At the end of the day that's what every parent wants to be able to say about their parenting skills.

Seeing my friend so distraught over the loss of her mom just tugged at my heart strings even more.  To see such a person who I know as being strong, tough and doesn't take shit from anybody in such a fragile state made me tear up.  Today, as I offered my friend words of comfort, I wished I could take half of her pain away.  Even as I type this I'm tearing up.  She was so drained and exhausted.  I can hear the sound of cry and almost childlike voice as she tried to hold it together.

I've been to my share of funerals and memorial services but it's something different when you see your friend grieving so hard and you know the one thing/person that can heal them is never coming back.  I can only pray that God will be a fence around her and her family.  That He will protect them from further hurt and pain and comfort them in a way that I can't.  

Have you ever had a friend grieve the loss of a parent or spouse?  How did you try to help them get through it?

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  1. I lost my mother and I lost everyone. I had no friends to lean on and be there for me. I think the best thing if you can't find anything to say is to just be there. The pain is like none other but being there is the best thing to do. My prayers with her.

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    1. Sorry to hear that. It's hard enough to deal with the passing of a loved one that I can't imagine dealing with it minus friends. Thank you for your prayers.

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  2. Very sorry to hear that about your friend. Losing a loved one is never, ever easy... especially when it is someone so close & dear to us like a parent. I can't imagine the pain she is going through. Nothing you, or anyone, says can fix what happened but one day she will be better and will remember that your kind words during this super sensitive time in her life. Keep being there for her in the way you can because she will definitely appreciate it & so will her mother looking down on you all. God bless XOXO ♥

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  3. I lost my Mom last year...and I can tell you, I am still not over it..some days are easier than others....My own suggestion to you is to just keep checking on her....while she may not show it, I know she will appreciate you showing you are still there. We go through a time and think "How can everyone's lives just continue to go on?"...And if you show her, that while your life is still going on, you think about her often...believe me..it will help her to know that.

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    1. Sorry to hear about your loss. Thanks for the advice.

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