Unlike my mom, I decided to avoid all the Black Friday shopping madness at the stores and enjoy some Black Friday deals from the comforts of my own home. So, check out some of the Black Friday deals listed below.
Well, it's week three of me and Moo being at Grandma's house and I'm finally getting a little bit homesick. Don't get me wrong we have had a wonderful time chilling out, laughing and traveling with the family, but I miss my hubby and my own space. And to make the situation worse, my treo decided to up and die on me. Ok so it's not dead in the sense that it won't come on because it will. However, it cuts itself right back off and none of my buttons work.
And if you know me personally then you know that I'm always on my treo. That thing was my lifeline to my distant friends and relatives. Not to mention how I stayed connected to Twitter and Facebook throughout the day. After all it's just not possible for me to stay glued to the computer all day with a busy almost 2 year old. I'm not going to complain too much though because I've already told Santa that I'd like a new phone for Christmas.
Anyways, I'm looking forward to this weekend when I will reunite with the hubby and my stuff until Christmas week. Hope that everyone had a blessed weekend and will have a lovely Thanksgiving holiday. Let's not forget the things we have to be truly thankful for. And for those of you looking for some Black Friday sales, stay tuned because I will be posting some sales codes from my sponsors that you can use online instead of rushing to the stores.
And don't forget that I am still looking for sponsors to help YUMMommy donate to the Sponsor-A-Child charity mission going on at the Wallace Family Life Center. They have roughly 45 families who are in need this year. If you would like to adopt a child, family or even just send a Visa gift card contact me and let me know. This is a great opportunity to help get your brand out their as an article and list of all businesses and brands and individuals will be published in the local newspaper. I will also highlight those brands that assist YUMMommy in donating to this great cause in blog post after December 19th.
So, this week I've been spending a lot of time on Twitter instead of Facebook because that ridiculous question and answer game everybody and their mamas was playing on there. I understand that games can be fun, but seriously putting all of your personal business and your true feelings about your ex out on Facebook for the entire world to read is just a bit stupid. You have people that you don't even know on your friends list asking you about things that aren't any of their business. Anyways, while I was on Twitter yesterday I came across a post that Eva Longoria and Tony Parker were calling it quits after seven years together ( three of those years spent married).
I was shocked because they are like the cutest couple ever and unlike some celeb couples they seemed sincerely happy and in love with each other. At first I thought this is some kind of prank, but after checking her Twitter page it was confirmed that this was no rumor. After, I read that I couldn't even tweet anymore. A part of me was heartbroken and not because they're celebs. I was heartbroken because it just seems that marriage is no longer regarded highly or something sacred and lasting in America anymore.
Just this morning, I read on Yahoo that 4 out 10 people said that marriage is being exstinct! That's a lot once you think about it. As a married woman myself this is not exactly reassuring news. It does not give me hope for my daughter's future either. What is going on that is making it so easy for people (men and women) to just up and walk away from their families? I'm even more puzzled as to what is making some of us to put aside the morals and beliefs to live as married couples but not be married?
Honestly, I can say that I don't know what I was thinking when I decided to put aside my values and shack up with my hubby for almost 6 years. Looking back on it, I think that if I wouldn't have moved in with him in the first place a lot of the earlier issues we experienced wouldn't have been a problem. And we probably would have ended up married at least three years ago. I'm glad that I put my foot down and we had that year apart. Seeing the mistakes that I made, I'm hoping to be able to guide my daughter from making the same mistakes.
I truly believe that couples (not all) now days think that love is a cure all when it comes to marriage. And love does cure a lot of things, but it still takes a lot of other factors to have a lasting marriage. In my opinion, a lot people are getting divorced because they feel like they are no longer in love with their spouse and are claiming they're not the same person they married x amount of years agoe. Well, duh that makes sense. As we grow older we're suppose to mature and get wiser which will change who we are a little bit.
And thankful my parents thought me that you don't just get married for love because love will never be enough. There needs to be mutual interests, security, and chemisty of course. I can sit here and say that I didn't marry my husband just because I love him. I married him because he was financially stabled-he had his own car, his own place and a great job. He's a good decision maker for the most part.
He's a self-made man. He doesn't allow himself to be defined by his past or materials. He's educated. This man put himself through four years of college without family to support him and no financial aid!! I married him because he supports my dreams and my bettering myself. We've had some obstacles to overcome and probably will have a few more hills to climb as we continue our relationship, but the one thing we agree on is that we're not going to take the easy way out.
We've agreed that whatever comes our way we're going try counseling, therapy, coupless activity, pastoral sessions, etc to make our marriage work. Why? Well, marriage takes work. We have a realistic view of what marriage really is. While we'd like for everyday to be a walk in the park we know that it's not realistic and so you have to have a plan. And our plan is that divorce is not an option.
The truth is that you're never going to find that person that makes you happy 100 % of the time and ultimately you should never look for other people or things to make you happy anway. You are in charge of your own happiness. The people we allow into our lives are only their to share in our happiness.
We as Americans have to better. While most of us are worried about the economy being in depression, we need to be more focused on her personal lives and morals being in a depression. We need to go back to days when marriage and family were sacred and meant something.
Well, I'm back from another mini-vacay. It's not that I didn't want to blog, but just that I've been so moody lately it's been hard to get my thoughts together. Yes, the mood swings and emotional rollercoaster have already started. However, after a week's stay with my lovely mommy, I am sane again. My mom knows me like the back of her hand almost. So, it only made sense that she would know I was struggling with all the changes regarding my pregnancy.
Since, finding out I was pregnant, I have been struggling a little bit coming to terms with the fact that I'm having a second baby already. And the constant morning sickness is not helping. At times, I feel so helpless over all the changes that are going on inside my body. I just wish I had some say over it. A control freak, I know. However, sitting and talking with my mom helped me to put things into perspective.
This baby is a blessing. Although, this pregnancy wasn't suppose to go down for another two years (maybe three) it's happening now and I need to appreciate the fact that I can produce life. There are so many women out there who can't have kids and here I am pouting because the time isn't right. Newsflash, there is no right timing unless you're rich and even then the timing may not be right. God would not have given me this responsibility if He knew I couldn't handle it.
I am a great mommy to Moo. So, why am I worried about what kind of mommy I will be to this baby? I have no doubt that I will love both my kids equally no matter what. Getting out the house will require more time and planning once the new baby is here, but I'm up for the challenge. I can accept that responsibility. I'm determine that having two young kids isn't a death sentence like a few people have tried to make it seem.
I've already started hearing "Girl, you're really going to be tied down now" and "What you going to do with two kids?" What the hell you think I'm going to do with two kids? I'm going to continue living my life and pursuing my goals and dreams. It'll take some planning and a lot of help outside of me and my husband, but I can do anything that anybody else without kids can do. This is not the end of my life but the beginning of a new and more adventurous chapter.
My mom also helped me come to terms with the fact that I am not my baby bump. "You're not wearing that are you?," she asked me on my third day at home. Honestly, I had given up on trying to look fashionable and had just focused on comfort. I'm two months and two weeks but I look like I'm five or six months already thanks to my tumor that grows as the baby grows. And maternity pants don't exactly look flattering on me. So, I'd rather wear regular jeans two sizes bigger and put on a belt to hold them up.
However, as my mom pointed out they're not exactly figure flattering either. I end up with extra material in the crouch and butt area. Not sexy at all. "You're a fashion major," she reminded me as she opened up her closet. Yes, my mom was getting ready to dress me like I was five years old again. After a few changes, some added bling and new shoes, I looked and felt like a new woman. I didn't feel pregnant and that was great.
"You wear the pregnancy, not the pregnancy wearing you," my mom told me as I checked out my final outfit in the mirror. She's right. As soon as my baby bump started showing, I started dressing down. And that's just not me. I'm the woman who owes hardly any flats and was wearing four inch heels to my baby shower at 8 months and wearing them well I must say. The only time I will ever refer to myself as a girly girl is when it comes to my fashion.
I'm all about heels with cute patterns and textures, dresses and jeans that fit my curves right and brightly colored tops. Let's not start on my handbag collection. LOL. Well, it's the same way with this new body that I have. I have to take the time to find clothes that still represent who I am, but compliment and showcase my growing belly. So, Sunday my baby sister gave me one of her knit baby doll dresses to wear and it looked great.
I loved that it hugged my little big belly snugly but wasn't tight. A pair of thick brown tights and studded brown flats completed my look. It was perfcet pregnant fashionista church wear. I could tell that people weren't just checking out my belly but my dress as well. I got several 'oh that dress looks cute on you' looks and it made me glow. When we went to visit my aunts afterwards they even noticed how nice I looked in the dress.
And although, I wish I could just build up a collection of cute knit dresses to wear my remaining 6 and a half months, I'm excited about going shopping for some maternity pants with my mom on Black Friday. I heard that the Belk near my hometown has some great maternity wear on sale and will be even more discounted for Black Friday. So, while everybody else is fighting over computers and tvs we'll be shopping peacefully in the maternity section.
I'm just thankful to have a wonderful family who is taking the time to build me up during this emotional and shakey time in my life. Their small tasks and acts of love and sincere compassion just reminds of why I love them and miss them. I love my family even though we don't always agree. I wouldn't trade them for the world (some of my cousins I might) and I'm looking forwards to heading back down for Thanksgiving to enjoy more time with them.